Ten things I learnt during my first year a twin mum!

Ten things I learnt during my first year a twin mum!

Date: 9th July 2021 | By: Kelly McDermott

In honour of “Twins, Triplets and More Week” founder of Beaming Babies, Kelly Jenkins, shares ten things she learnt during her first year a Mum of twins.  

You will be stopped…a lot!

When I took my twins out for the first time in public we went for a coffee and a look around the shop next door (nothing too wild as we were testing the waters with two car seats and a double pram!). It took us 3.5 hours to walk around the shop. We were stopped on literally every aisle by kind strangers wanting to look at the twins and chat about them. We were asked all sorts of weird and wonderful questions and we loved every second of sharing our joy with others. But we learnt to allow for extra time when popping to the shop from then on!

You will no longer be able to freely move around your living room…

Two bouncers, two bumbo seats, two jumperoos, two highchairs…you get the picture. Two of everything.

Taking help is a good thing…

Don’t be too proud. I was reluctant to take the help and support I was offered at first. I thought I’m a Mum now and I need to do this. I quickly learnt that accepting help was not only good for me, but for the twins too. If someone is at your house and offers to do the dishes while they’re there or to make you some lunch, just let them. They love you and they wouldn’t have offered if they didn’t want to. Let them get the fairy liquid out and stick the kettle on.

You will never have enough wipes…

Keep. Them. Everywhere. In the pram, in your bag, in the car, in the living room, in the bedroom, in the bathroom. There’s always someone spitting up something or other! Also…car needs a clean? Use a wipe. Stain on your top? Use a wipe. Forgot to wash? Umm ok use a wipe – no judging here.

Anything can be solved with water…

Whenever my twins would be having a meltdown (or if I was having a meltdown) or it was just one of those tough-can’t-do-anything days I learnt a simple bath would sort it all out. And I don’t mean me, but the twins. Popping them in the bath for a little splash around would instantly bring calm and peace to the household. I have stuck to this throughout the early years, and it never failed me! Try it next time you’re in a frenzy and let me know how it goes. 

Also, anything can be solved with fresh air…

Following from the last point, I also learnt that when the four walls felt like they were caving in on the long, exhausting and sometimes lonely (despite there being 3 of us!) days that bundling them into the pram and just walking would help us all. Fresh air for you and fresh air for them. Win, win.

There’s no need to feel guilty about taking a break…

Ahhh the mum guilt! It’s a very real thing that haunts a lot of us when it really shouldn’t. As a mum of twins, you’ll have double the load but do not let it stop you from taking a break from mum life every now and again. We all need a little respite and a chance to regain our calm. Pick up that hobby when you can, see your friends, go for a walk, and listen to an audiobook. Life will never be the same again, but you will always deserve some time to yourself. 

You will feel instantly connected to other multiple mums…

You’ll spot them, seek them out and instantly feel like they could be your best friend because they just KNOW. You can’t even put your finger on what they know, but they just know. 

Double the love…

You will feel love like you never knew existed for that multiple bundle of joy and as an added bonus you will witness their bond forming (growing stronger and stronger with every tiny touch) that will make your heart melt on a daily basis. Love. Love. Love. 

Lastly, you will be just fine…

Trust me. I know, my gosh I know how hard those first couple of years are. The breaking your back carrying two car seats around, the crash banging around the shops and cafes with your double buggy, the changing one nappy to sit back down and discover the other needs to be changed, the double screaming because they’re both hungry, the trying to run in two directions to catch them when they become mobile. But trust me, it gets easier (don’t laugh, I promise it does). And hey, you wouldn’t have been chosen to be a twin mum if you couldn’t handle it. You’re made of some seriously tough stuff, and don’t you forget it.